What do you do when your neighbor does not, by default, exude civility? I was confronted with this situation when living in Manchester, New Hampshire when a man thought it appropriate to blast his vehicle stereo for the whole neighborhood to hear. I engaged him in conversation with an aim to achieve an understanding. While that did not immediately happen, the goodwill undergirding my perspective did ultimately find resonance, and we were both better off for the relationship.
Each of us can be a hero.
“A Week on the Concord and Merrimack Rivers” by Henry David Thoreau
Manchester, New Hampshire entry on Wikipedia
Lee Morrison of Urban Combatives on adrenal dump during confrontations, warrior mindset, etc.
On Nonviolent Communication